Why do modern marriages fail?

 Why do modern marriages fail?

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In my entire family, i haven't seen a single failing marriage. Have i encountered fights? Terribly yes. Compromises? Yes, lack of intrest? Ofcourse. No happiness in marriage? Yes. But here’s one thing very common in all of them,

“He is the only one who will stay, not parents , not kids, he might get upset sometimes but at the end I'm nothing without him”

“When I come back home tired, partially failed sometimes, exhausted, she treats me like a king, she lifts me up and she will be there till end”

You see the co dependency? There are two major views points here why they feel such way

Women are not independent, they need their partner, she can't leave for her and her kids”

The men are secured because she is staying at home and taking care of kids

Now let's look at what's happening now. Nearly Everyone is getting educated, nearly all girls from Tier 2 and Tier 1 cities are working or willing to work, they chase independence and the reason Is clearly mentioned above.

So the women wants freedom, which please don't mind is insecurity for a lot of men. They might not be wrong absolutely but when she's working outside she will definitely have her own piece of life which might not involve her personal life, that triggers. Which is wrong. And this scenario is similar when we talk about counter part. And this can be resolved honestly.

The second perspective is problematic. people are not ready to compromise . They face turmoil and they are ready to call it off. I am saying absolutely on what I have observed . Be it women or men they are absolutely intolerant to any major inconvenience. And sometimes it's justified as well. And since both are independent, there's no “compulsion” as such.

Cheating has become so much common now. That shit scares the hell out of me.

Falling in love with a person and marrying them are two different Worlds. Most of the time we love the idea of how it will be living with them. We fall for the imagination. And imagination is not the reality, so when you live with them in a single house, you realise, this is not what you were expecting. Turns out, major disputes.